Nikki Blog

Why do men often lie about their ages? I had a consultation with a client yesterday.  He put down in the webform that he was 38 years old. The guy was intelligent and had a great job with a bank.  (Not tough at all for me to match.) 

I asked him to provide a photocopy of IDcard, and this is when the truth usually comes out.  They will start getting all funny, and ask me if they really look 38? Get me to guess their ages, or some came out with a lame excuse that the IDcards were left at home/lost /stolen/ my dog ate it.  You name it, but the thing with them is it’s never an easy “Here is my copy of IDcard”.  RED FLAG. 

Anyway, they will later admit that in fact they are 45 or 44 years old because I wouldn’t let them join the service without the right paper. There is nothing wrong with being the age they are, but I think they feel it will be harder for them to meet someone in the late 20s or early 30s as they previously requested with me.  “I’m young at heart, really.”, they all said.  “And I looked young, right?”.  Why do they need this assurance from a matchmaker if they know deep down they are?

Note to men: Some girls wouldn’t mind at all dating someone many years older than them, because these guys come with a stable job and may have more to offer than somebody closer to their ages. 

It has been two years since Thailand fell off the dusty bar of Democratic rail. Perhaps it was too greasy at first to be hold on to, having been covered with rusty corrupted political regime and power-cash-hungry politicians and their cousins’s capitalist agenda.

Is the so called Dusty Democratic rail easier to hang on to, or can Prime Minister Samak Sundaravej wipe it clean with his culinary skill? A friend of mine tried following PM Samak’s cooking recipe, and we had to say it was less than delicious. Following PM Samak’s governing policy and his new appointed ministers, and we may have a recipe for national disaster.

Looking back over the years, there seem to be a common trend in requests of expat guys who used MeetNLunch matchmaking service. They look for someone with the following characteristics:

- professional career or own a business
- lived or experienced countries outside Thailand for a period of time

This would mean they should have a solid English and are more independent (income and socially) - a little more Western in their ways.

It was odd to see these requests at first, but to put myself in their shoes, it must be pretty hard to find these quality girls in the bars and street of Bangkok, where the expats would normally hang out.

Normally, it’ll take me 1 week to coordinate a match and set up a date for a client, but there are some clients that are difficult to match, and had to wait for a few months.  Difficulties in matching for this 40s years old lady was simply because of her age and her preferrence in meeting Thai men. She is well-educated and has her own business.  After a long search for a pin in the haystack, we hooked her up with a charming 50s years old guy, and here is her response in Thai:

“สวัสดีค่ะคุณนิ๊กกี้ การนัดพบครั้งพี่ประทับใจมากค่ะ คุณท. สุภาพและน่ารักมาก บรรยากาศของร้านอาหารก็อบอุ่นและ อาหารอร่อยเป็นสถานที่นัดพบที่ดีแห่งหนึ่ง พี่ยินดีจะใช้บริการกับคุณอีกค่ะ ขอบคุณค่ะ พ.”

Translation “Hello k. Nikki, I was very impressed with the meeting with khun T.  He is polite and very sweet.  The restaurant was warm and the food was delicious.  It’s a good place for a date.  I’ll be happy to use your dating service again in the future.  Thank you ka. P.”

 Matchmaker’s thought: Thank you for being patient with me, and I’m so glad you found the matchmaking service worked for you. 

 It’s not easy to find the perfect someone. Everyone you met will have something that you like, and you wish that you could combine them together like my latest client. 

“Dear MeetNLunch Customer Care: 
 Good morning. Last week was my dating marathon that had never ever happened in my life before. It apparently has one date left before you able to find the final one. To bring up-to-date my opinion dating with khun F… and Khun S…respectively; they are absolutely different.  
Starting with Khun F… on Sat 12th Jan 2008 at 2 pm.; honestly speaking the conversations were not longer than 1 hr because I could not stand her gestures, sound and the way she talked. I can feel bossy, fussy,  grumpy in herself. I do not think i can handle her personalities for the rest of my life. Good things about k. F… are her pretty healthy hair and nice skin and color. She has gotten her beauty stuff from her mom esp grandmom who is real japanese.       
Next, yesterday date with Khun S… was okay. May be I did expect to see her before because we studied at same university. However, she was studying there two years before me. She might be older than me almost 2 years as same age as my older cousin.  We talked in different topics. All topics were smooth. One thing I could not see was her smiles. Personally I like when she was a music teacher. Talking about her appearance, she is not my type at all : too short and too chubby. When she was communicating with her sister in korean; i think she sounded sexy. We were in the restaurant about 1 hr 30 mins. We could be there longer than that; provided that her sister did not call her to go  back home together. 
 
Last but not least please kindly surprise me for the 6th date;I don’t mind a Japanese foreigner. Please combine k. F… appearance with k. J… ’s personality, and k. B…’s height. Thank you for your cooperation.
 
Now rankings:
1. Khun J
2. Khun S
3. Khun B
4. Khun F
5. Khun L (Not met yet)                
Best regards, P”

Matchmaker’s thought: My dear client, there is no such perfect girl, whomever you are looking for.  My suggestion is inner beauty is more important than beautiful skin and hair.  Go out with someone that you get along with, and you will enjoy it longer.