Is he interested?
A female client that went on the date over the weekend asked me how to tell a difference if the guy is really interested or just being polite and flirty.
Nikki says “It could be quite confusing to figure out if the guy is really interested in you, or is he simply a flirtatious social butterfly. Pick up signs such as is he nervous when he talks to you? does he writes long email when it could just be a couple of words? does he tries to be funny? does he always pick up the phone when you call? or return it as soon as he is available? Seperate flirtation and being genuinely interested.
If he said he’s only free to meet you on every Friday night, but not on the other nights of the week, no matter what his excuses are, WATCHOUT, as he might be double dating another person.”
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Hi ka P’Nikki,
Right, this could be quite tricky to figure out. And personally I beleive this question could occasionally pops into either guys or ladies when out dating but mostly it’s natural for female to wonder more about this. (just my personal view)
Anyhow, your advice here sounds quite practical…thank you for sharing.
I’ve got a point I’d like to ask though, isn’t it true that most people who are on matchmaking service tend to expose to more than one date at a time? So, if that’s the case, does it mean that guys who’re on double dates could be more of danger?
Hi k. Mookilicious,
Good question, and I’m sure many have wondered about the same thing on meeting many people at the same time in our service.
The advantage of seeing a few people at the same time, is for you to choose the best person for yourself. We want the clients to select their partner rationally, not emotionally or desperately feeling there is no choice left. It’s not everyday that you will get to meet a new person, so this method allow you to make a better judgement for yourself, and not to worry if he/she isn’t right for you. It also allows people to take time to learn about the person that they are dating, and not to jump into the relationship because they just didn’t want to be alone. How many times have you heard people dating someone or stick with their lesser partner because they just didn’t meet someone nicer? It takes a lot of courage to say no, and move on.
As we hear feedback from both the girl and the guy, we can cross-checked if they have genuine interest to pursue it further. So once one of them confirmed with us that they are seeing the person that we set him/her up with, we don’t let that person meet a new candidate. It is wrong and unfair to the new person we will set him/her up with.
Thanks for your prompt response ka p’Nikki.
I must say this is quite an integrity of you to point out it’s not your policy to set up a new date for the clients if they already made up their mind to pursue a relationship with the person you’ve set up for them before.
Oh well, there’s another thing I’d like to ask. Under a circumstance of set-up dates, wouldn’t people set high expectations towards their dating partners; which could potentially leads to stressful situation between them? Pardon me if I sound too skeptical. But I’m quite curious. So hope my question is understandable.
No problem, and I don’t think your question sounds skeptical at all. They are all good questions, and I’ll add them into our FAQs in the near future.
During the consultation session, the client will normally tell me the qualification of people they are looking to meet. These covers education, occupation, hobbies, social habits, physical attributes, and family background etc. We tried our best to meet the important requirement (quality that can’t be compromised), and don’t over pitch anyone to raise their expectatation, because at the end of the day…I hate complaints, and I really want people to meet whom they will at least enjoy talking to, and able to pursue it further to another level later on.
From the feedback we get, most clients seem to be excited and nervous before they go on the date, and not stress that they won’t impress the other person. The pressure is usually on me to do my job properly. Hope that answers your curiosity.