Date Like a Poker Pro
After years long of not understanding the fun of playing poker, I recently became very interested on playing Texas Hold’em on my ipod. I love the little decision making process on every single move that the card is laid and calculating the odd of my opponents. Say you have to make 1,000 decisions to win a game, and there is a small chance of winning 35% 40% 70% here and there. The trick is to win these little odds over and over again because if you wait for the prefect cards to land on your lap, you will lose all your money in the end.
In dating, as in poker, the decisions we made to date someone follow these similar pattern. MeetNLunch’s clients can either wait for the odds to be extremely high before agreeing to go on a date or we can take chances because there are so many factors at play. Ask yourself this, is my chance of ending up with this person better than head or tail? If yes, then you should go on the dates again and again until you hit a jackpot. The odd of winning a partner will be higher than not accepting any date even when you think the profiles sound just okay.
Understanding that the good decisions you made doesn’t always lead to good outcomes, but over a long period of trial, you will eventually meet the right person. I have came across women in their early 30s who are so sure of the profiles they are looking for, that he must be a doctor, master degree graduate, less that 6 years apart from her, and reasonably tall, otherwise, she wouldn’t consider meeting him. We were able to match 2 out of these criteria, namely the occupation and the degree, but he was slightly older than what she wanted, and despite being taller than her – still came down to being too short.
If she only decide to meet close-to-guaranteed perfect match, she is letting go of a good opportunities, and we can’t guarantee there’ll be a chemistry. Dating is all about giving the other person a chance especially if you have that small edge just like in poker, regardless of the outcome.
Often when I played poker, I felt this will be my last chance to win over the game, ALL IN or my opponent will know that I’ve been bluffing 
and always, I ended up busted. Similar to the date that you agree to meet, he is not going to be your last date, nor he is more important than the guy you met before, and unlikly to be more important than the guy you’ll meet in the future. So don’t treat the date or agreeig to go on the date as your last chance. By putting too much importance on the outcome of the date, you are making it hard to determine what the correct odd of finding the right person.
Don’t let the high odd deters you from making small edge of meeting the right person.
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One Response to “Date Like a Poker Pro”
well i have never played poker before..dating a girl is not a typical thing for me..but understanding her is quite a difficult job..