Nikki Blog

Okay, so MeetNLunch has done the relatively easy bit of finding you a perfect date, but how do you do the hard bit in making sure you secure him once you have a chance to go on the date?

A really good looking female client of mine went on the date recently.  She is not just good looking, she is actually drop dead gorgeous, but the male client came back a little unimpressed. 

“….She did talk a lot about her work and i had to stop
her from going into details about each of the product
she is marketing for.  Still, she somehow managed to
explain to me in English mix with Thai about the
products as if she thinks that i would be interested
to learn about computers on a dinner date.  Aside from
trying to explain the product features, she also went
on into quite a detail about most of her previous
relationships and she seemed so proud to present to me
all the fancy job titles and upscale multinational
company that each and every single one of her previous
boyfriend used to hold or now holding.  She did put a
lot of emphasis as though she wants to make sure that
i understand that the number one quality she looks for
in men is “highly accomplishment”.  So i just smile
most of the time as she told the story….”

Dating Guidelines:

1) Don’t talk into too much detail about your work, only say something that is really interesting, and look out for signal that your audience may not be interested to hear about how the knot fell off the computer today.

2) Pick one language, and stick with it.  Don’t try to show off by mixing Thai with English.

3) Avoid talking about your ex-partners, if the subjects were brought up, don’t dwell on it for too long, and definitely do not brag about how great your ex were. 

Many of my girl friends always asked me, “where is the best bar in Bangkok to ‘hook up’ with guys?” Depending on the age and how the questioner would like to be ‘hooked up’, there are 2 different type of trendy bars they can go to in Thailand. The first type is the usual Western style bars where the ‘hooked up chat’ can go on for a long time. The second type is a ‘quick chat’, where guy approached the girl just to get her number before swiftly back off again to their table. It’s a common way of how Thai men do it. They normally call the girls up again at the privacy of their homes to learn more about the girls and possibly leading to asking her out. There is a well-known saying though that you can’t find a nice girl in the club and bar. Anyway, if you nice girl wants to break the rule, and want to have some fun once in a while, here are the list of nice bars you can hang out depending on your ‘hooked up’ preference or men that you would like to meet. I have divided the bars into Long chat and Quick Chat. Some posh bars like Sirocco/Distill and Bamboo are excluded because people tend not to chat to strangers and defeat the purpose of this list.

Long Chat

• Spasso has a live band, playing pops and Latino favorite hits. It has some wealthy expats hanging about travelling in and out for business trips. Slightly older crowds, usually late 20s upwards. 494 Ratchadamri Road, 02 254 1234 x3058 Open HoursNoon-2.30pm; 6:30pm-2am daily http://www.bangkok.hyatt.com
• Bed Supperclub is notorious for snobbish service orientated. Don’t recommend you sit/lie on bed on the second floor. Remember you are here to get approached, so better to stand at the tables on the ground floor. Gay’s night on Sunday. 26 Sukhumvit Soi 11, near BTS Nana, 02-651-3537 www.bedsupperclub.com
• BarSu has an excellent service, and is trying to draw a crowd with award-winning bartender, and international DJs. The crowd is middle to trying to be upper class. Sheraton Grande Sukhumvit, 250 Sukhumvit Rd., near BTS Asoke 02-649-8353 www.barsubangkok.com Open daily 6 pm-2am
• Hu’u Bar comes and goes, but when it is in, it is a great place to have a cocktail and relax. 1-2/F, The Ascott, 187 South Sathorn Rd., near BTS Chong Nonsi 02-676-6677 www.huuinasia.com
• Met Bar is a classy bar where hi-so used to hang out. Metropolitan Bangkok, 27 South Sathorn Rd., 02-625-3333
• Molly Bar RCA I’m pretty sure this is a lesbian bar, but if I was wrong please let me know. RCA, Rama 9 Rd., 02-203-0972
• Pandanus This one, I’m 99% sure that it has turned into a gay bar, but great place and décor. So if you want to blend in with those gorgeous men and have a good laugh, this is a great place to be. 50 Soi Nanta, Sathorn Soi 1, 02-287-4021
• Q Bar I don’t think I need to talk about this one, even my little cousin knows that it is as old as a grandpa, but it did go under some refurbishment in early 2008.

Quick Chat

• Baroque has a staggering ancient décor, but the music is anything but ancient. 559 Soi Rim Klong Sam Sen, Rama 9 Rd., 02-245-8950.
• Inch is a fun place for a younger crowd. It will give you the same feeling if you like RCA, and has famous Thai hip hop DJs excited the youngster. Ratchadaphisek Rd., near MRT Thailand Cultural Center, 02-660-9302, www.inchclub.com
• Route 66 is famous for its hip hop scene, and split into different music rooms. There is also a boy band singing in the lady’s toilet. 29/33-48 RCA, Rama 9 Rd., 02-203-0834 www.route66club.com
• Santika has a castle like theme to it, great place to get your number handed out. 235/11 Soi Ekamai, Sukhumvit Rd., 02-711-5886

Let me know if you want me to add any other places.

Or looked at yourself in the mirror and thought “My hair looks so dull/unnatural, and I had this hair style/colour for years, but don’t know how to change it.”

Or I owned as much cosmetics products as a make up artist does, but I can’t seem to be able to apply it to the same affect.

Every weekend, I have scheduled in atleast one makeover session with male and female clients who are about to go on the date, to go over their attires, hairs, makeup, perfumes etc.  I think I have done it enough time to be able to start blogging about it with some useful insights and really workable tips. 

The first thing I considered when the clients come in, is to see if their clothes are right for them.  Does the cloth suits your lifestyle, social situations and personality? And most important of all, does the cloth says to your dating partner that “I am the one that you want to be seen next to”?

Hair is another essential items that often gets neglected. Most hairdressers cut your hair the way you told them to, but does it really suits your personality, lifestyle or career? I mean for a start, the hairdressers just wouldn’t know, unless you have been going to the same one for years.  Styling your hair is also very important, don’t over do whatever you think is good because it is usually isn’t. 

And the last point is just absolutely unbelievable, it always amazed me how many Thai women don’t know how to put on a good make up.  Applying the makeup in a right way can make you not only look younger, but it will also save you from having to buy in new unnecessary products that come out every seasons unknowlegably.

Trust me, changing your image can also boost your confident, and you will be glad that you took on the advice. 

People who come to see me are usually people who are ready to make a postive change to their life. They are proactive, wanting to choose, rather than being chosen.  So depending on how much changes you are prepared for, the makeover can be 10 mins -3 months, but the benefit is for a lifetime. (Note: Unlike an image consultant in the department stores that gets commissions if you buy the products (meaning conflict of interest), I don’t get paid for this, so you can be assured what I suggest will be worth it.)

Did I mention that I just recieved a call after this blog went up from my client, whom I did a makeover for last Thursday, saying that she got approached by a guy who offered to pay for her dinner with friends after she tried following my makeup tip? She was so pleased about it as it has never happened before! Great job girl!

A guideline of our free makeover process will be put up at the end of this week.

Just finished interviewing a very pretty and neat-looking 30 years old marketing executive client.  She is actually prettier than most average Thai girls I came across, but she told me that her friends always get all the attention from guys whenever they go out.  And she asked me why?

 Nikki says “If your girl friends are getting more attention than you, take a moment to think of the signals that you gave out there. Is it “I’m available and easy to talk to” kinda signal or “I’m not interested, and you’d better stay 10 feet away from me” kinda signal? The former will obviously attract the opposite sex to feel relax and encourage them to approach you.  Smile, don’t fold your arms, look interested and excited by what he has to say.”

A female client that went on the date over the weekend asked me how to tell a difference if the guy is really interested or just being polite and flirty.

Nikki says “It could be quite confusing to figure out if the guy is really interested in you, or is he simply a flirtatious social butterfly.  Pick up signs such as is he nervous when he talks to you? does he writes long email when it could just be a couple of words? does he tries to be funny? does he always pick up the phone when you call? or return it as soon as he is available? Seperate flirtation and being genuinely interested. 

If he said he’s only free to meet you on every Friday night, but not on the other nights of the week, no matter what his excuses are, WATCHOUT, as he might be double dating another person.”