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Question and Answer from the Matchmaker

nikki — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 14:02:37 +0000

“Dear K. Nikki,

I’ve been seeing this guy for over a year now, and I’m 31. Despite a long period that we have been dating, and with him already met my family several times, we don’t call each other boyfriend or girlfriend yet. Anyway, he is a really nice guy, faithful, gets along well with my family, and I really like him. However, when I discussed marriage with him, he said he’s still not ready, it’ll take him another 4 years because he wants his business to settle down first. He is 38 years old. He also said if I meet someone new, I can stop seeing him. What should I do?

Meaw”

Dear K. Meaw,

Thank you for your question ka. You are in a dilemma that many Thai women are facing, and it’s good that you are questioning your relationship.

In Thailannd, there are a few couple out there that are seriously dating, but don’t introduce each other as their boyfriend or girlfriend, this is a sign of commitment issue. You should first get your date to agree in a commitment relationship before bringing up the marriage discussion. If he can’t even commit to that, then you know he is not that into you. Until someone asked or agreeed to date you exclusively, I asked you to keep your option open for your own good.

I once had a female client came in after 7 years of relationship. She met him when she was 28, and he kept postponing the wedding, and at last she couldn’t stand it anymore. She lost the most precious time of her life to start a family because she decided to wait, and in the end he never kept his promise.

As long as you are not in a committed relationship, it is okay to keep your option opened while waiting to see what’ll happen with this guy ka. There is no need to tell him that you are keeping your option opened either, as this will only enforce his unfair request. After you meet that special someone, you can then break off this superficial relationship with him.

Hope that helps, and good luck ka!

Nikki, the Matchmaker

The Unprotected

nikki — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 08:39:08 +0000

I couldn’t help but agree more with Jon Ungphakorn on the hypocrisy of the Thai society on our conservative view of sex and marriage, while living our lives very differently otherwise, published in the Bangkok Post, on Wednesday 9 January 2008. He claims the official version of our society is far from reality, and that prostitution has to be accepted and resolved through social reform and created the rights for sex workers.
My view is that the officials are turning blind eyes on the massage parlour and bothel industry by taking bribery. As far as I know, the only people that suffered from this outlaw of prostitution is the sex workers themselves, not us that drive pass the massage parlour everyday or living in the world greatest sex city, or gets a funny look when you said you are from Thailand. It’s imcomparable to what these sex workers have to go through. These sex workers are not protected by our society or by our law. What happened to them, e.g. when they get abuse, goes undetected, unprotected by our society. They have no where to turn to if they needed help, as they would be arrested if turning themselves in to the authority. It’s the flaw in our system.
Another point which I wanted to raise is the illegal abortion issue. Many people in Thailand have a strong belief that abortion is considered a form of murder, but not everyone has to share the same belief. The belief shouldn’t be forced onto the general public and practice. The choice should be given to the women themselves whether they are capable of raising the children or not. It will eliminate further problems down the line for both the mother and her child, and lift some burden off our society. Do contact Population and Community Development Association http://www.pda.or.th for help and further information.

Free Rice

nikki — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 06:55:53 +0000

I love the idea in donating 20 free rice for every vocabulary you get right in http://www.freerice.com, paid by sponsors through the United Nation. The more words you get right, the harder it gets. Brilliant!

They should provide different version of free… websites, like freebooks.com to build a library for the community, or freemedicalsupply.com for medical aids. Different types of questions can be used on each website, like who wrote The Pride and Prejudice, or what is insulin? and gets sponsorship from publishing house and pharmaceutical companies.

Nikki

chris — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 20:01:33 +0000

Nikki Assavathorn is a founder of MeetNLunch, Thailand’s first personalised matchmaking company to help professionals find compatiable partner over a safe and casual environment. In July 2008, Nikki is the first person in Thailand and the first to be certified from Matchmaking Institute (South East Asia). Prior to that, in 2004, Nikki graduated with the Bachelor and Master degrees in Chemistry from Imperial College, London. Nikki appeared on a VIP show channel 9, with a record of 3 million viewers.

MeetNLunch

chris — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 15:35:25 +0000

MeetNLunch (pronounced Meet and Lunch) is the first to provide personalized matchmaking service for busy professionals living in Thailand. We started in 2006 by 3 Thai founders under the mission of “creating a new matchmaking culture”.

In the initial stage, it was difficult to break the negative image about the matchmaking and marriage agency; nevertheless, MeetNLunch impressed the public with its screening process, personalized service, and the quality of the people in the pool.

Khun Nikki Assavathorn, one of our founders, is the first person in Thailand to be certified from Matchmaking Institute (South East Asia). She has always wanted to give something back to Thailand upon her return from a Master Degree at Imperial College, London. After discovering that many successful Thai professionals are single, she wanted to provide them an opportunity to meet someone that suits their styles through a safe and friendly environment.

MeetNLunch has already worked with over thousands of singles, and hoping that it can help many more people.